Just before I show you the mirror exercise let me say one or two things...
One of the best ways of increasing self esteem is to begin to appreciate and love yourself and when I say love yourself, I don't mean become proud and arrogant and think you are better than everybody, neither do I mean become vain and Narcissistic.
Loving yourself is not about becoming self centred, ego centric or self obsessed, on the contrary it is about having a healthy self perception.
In fact increasing self esteem is almost impossible without a healthy self perception, because loving who you are and accepting who you are is the foundation for having confidence in yourself.
Most of us have heard the famous quote from the bible "Love your neighbour as you love yourself"
This in itself implies that it would be very difficult to love your neighbour and very difficult to appreciate and value others if you don't first love and value yourself. In fact the reason a lot of people mistreat others is because they are suffering from low self esteem and have a very low self worth, this in turn gives birth to insecurities and as a result in order for them to feel good about themselves they have to put others down, mistreat, abuse and manipulate others in order for them to feel empowered.
Most bullies appear confident but in actual fact they are the ones with the biggest confidence issues and they are the ones that lack self esteem the most. Increasing self esteem doesn't come by trying to make yourself appear better and more important than others, the fact that you feel you need to do that in itself is evidence of low self esteem.
Rather, increasing self esteem comes by learning to love and appreciate yourself just because. Not because you want to appear important or prove anything, but just because you are whole within, complete within, knowing that as a human being, a person created by God, you are a person of value, a person of worth, a person of potential and purpose with a lot to offer and deposit into this world, the very fact that you are here means that you matter, that you are significant and needed, you have something to offer, you are not worthless. Know that about yourself and love yourself.
The mirror exercise is one of the best exercises I've come across for increasing self esteem and building up self love. It is a simple but very powerful self esteem building activity.
Do this exercise every day for 30 days, and it will change your life.
1. Choose a time in the morning or evening and find a private place with a mirror, lock the door and look into your eyes in the mirror for about 2 minutes.
2. As you look into your eyes in the mirror, begin to say some good and encouraging things about yourself, tell yourself how strong you've been and will continue to be, tell yourself how happy you are about what you've already achieved and what you will achieve in the future.
3. Still looking in your eyes in the mirror, tell yourself "you are amazing, you are good enough, you are a beautiful and wonderful person"
4. End by saying to yourself "I love you"
This exercise might seem a bit strange when you first start doing it, that is perfectly normal, just continue to do it anyway. The more you do it, the more you'll accept yourself for who you are and feel better about yourself and ultimately develop a healthy love for yourself. This mirror exercise is definitely one of the best ways of increasing self esteem and self love.
Dr Joe Rubino (one of the leading self esteem experts) has a great program for building self esteem. The program also has a lot of activities and exercises that will really help anyone struggling with self esteem issues. Click here to take a look at Dr Joe Rubino's Ultimate Self Esteem Formula Program.
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