A healthy self esteem comes from knowing that you have a purpose in life. Regardless of the circumstances that surrounded your arrival into this world you must understand that you are not here by accident, you are here for a reason and there is a purpose to your existence.
Having that knowledge should be a great source of self esteem for you, because if you have a purpose in life it means that your life isn't worthless, it means that your life isn't pathetic even if it feels so right now.
Understanding that your life is purposeful is very crucial to having a healthy self esteem because even when things aren't 100% the way you want them to be, you still have that sense of purpose and destiny, nobody can make you feel inferior, nobody can tell you you're useless because the very fact that you are on this planet is an indicator of your usefulness and value.
Everything created is created to be of use and value, in fact the concept of use and value is the motivation behind every invention. Computers are useful and valuable because of the complicated computing tasks they help us achieve. Phones are useful and valuable because of the communication tasks they help us to achieve. Now, if computers and phones that are made by the hands of men are useful and valuable, how much more you, the master piece of God's creation. Your existence is an indicator that God created you to be useful to this world and to add value to this world and nothing will give you a healthy self esteem like walking around with the knowledge and belief that you are in this world to bring something to the world that only you can bring.
Your circumstances are not what determine your worth; your bank balance isn't what determines your worth, so even if your circumstances aren't great right now it doesn't make you any less valuable because that is not the measure of your worth. You are useful and valuable because you have purpose, let that knowledge strengthen you and inject confidence in you so that rather than making apologies for yourself you go out and fulfil your purpose in the face of setbacks and adversity.
Use the Life Purpose Exercise Worksheet below to help you carry out the exercise.
Life Purpose Exercise Worksheet (right click the link and select "Save Link As" or "Save Target As" to download)
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